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4 Tips: How To Manage Stress With Healing Words (Plus 8 Benefits!)


How To Manage Stress With Healing Words: 4 Tips/ 8 Benefits

How to manage stress JournalingThis is the real life story of a friend of mine who has chosen to remain anonymous, but would like to share how she discovered the power of healing words that not only showed her how to manage stress effectively, but also gave her a dramatically different level of new quality in life.

I was full of anxiety, tension and stress after finding out. To add to that, there was the notion that I would have to share this news with my family. This only heightened my already tense nerves.

I did not want to accept the diagnosis that I had been given. I’ve always wanted to live life to the fullest.

You see, I had been diagnosed with a fatal disease, but I was determined not to go down without a fight.

So, after telling my family about my condition, I got up, opened my laptop and wrote: The Second Half of My Life.

How To Manage Stress With Creative Action

After I finishing writing that, I then decided to write about all of the twists and turns that I had experienced in my life. I wrote a lot. I  also opened the internet everyday to read about other people with my condition. I continued this activity for over a year, every single day.

Through all of this, I discovered one of the greatest ways to practice managing stress in a positive manner.

I discovered that my regular writing had become one of the greatest reliefs from the anxiety, tension and stress. Journaling was helping me to live my life to the fullest every day.

How to manage stress JournalingBecause of journaling, I was learning how to manage stress over my diagnosis without having to go into a long, deep, dark depression, as would have been expected. Instead, what I did was to try in the best way that I could, to put every bit of sense into everything that I wrote. This lead me to find inspiration and strength through my experiences, instead of sorrow and self-pity.

The Benefits Of Creativity and Expression

As I was going along in my research of others with similar conditions, I found out how they accessed effective stress management techniques.  I stumbled upon the works of Dr. James Pennebaker, who is chairman and professor of the Department of Psychology at the University of Texas, and author of the book Writing to Heal: A guided journal for recovering from trauma & emotional upheaval.

In his more than 20 years of helping people to overcome the pain, struggle and stress in their lives, he found some results that surprised me.

When he asked people to write for 15-20 minutes a day for 4 days, people received these benefits:

  1. Stronger Immune Systems
  2. Better and Deeper Sleep/Rest
  3. Greater Ability In Social Circles
  4. Improved Overall Health and Well Being
  5. Enhanced Perception and Ability To Evaluate Life
  6. Vision To See How To Use Language As A Healing Tool
  7. Improved Capacity To Think About More Than One Ting At A Time
  8. Students Saw Their Grades Improved

How to manage stress JournalingWhy I Needed These Benefits and What I Did To Get Them

In his works, I found out that there is a relationship between people who had a traumatic experience and the proportion to which these people haad an increasing number of health issues. Reading Dr. Pennebaker’s works showed me how holding back secrets can affect one’s life.
One of the many things I learned to practice in my writing, was to make sure I had constant usage of words like:

Love     |     Joy     |     Happy

For example, in managing stress effectively, it is better to for you to say that you are not happy rather than writing about how sad you are. I learned that there’s a huge difference between saying “I’m not happy with the way my relatives treat me” or saying “I’m really sad about the way my relatives treat me”.

Likewise, writing “I want more joy in my life” is better than writing “my life is dull or unsatisfying”; “I’m looking to find more love” is better than writing “Why do I always find people who treat me badly?”.

4 Tips For Your Creative Journey

An important factor in writing your story is that it has to have an element of reflection towards yourself.
Here are some guidelines in writing that will help you:

  1. Describe your thoughts and feelings towards your experiences. Be a detailed as you can so you can get to your core feelings.
  2. Write about how you reacted when something happened in your life. Your reactions are important to observe.
  3. When you begin to write, let all of your thoughts and feelings flow without thinking of how they appear. This is not an exam you have to hand in. :-)
  4. Read your finished writing and then take a few minutes to simply reflect on how it makes you feel. This will help you to define your state of mind and your improvement a lot better.

How to manage stress JournalingWith these guidelines, my writings became more automatic. Nowadays, I write everything that comes to my mind and remember those parameters automatically because I practice them and keep them by my pc.

As time has passed I’ve begun to realize that I too, get a great deal of relief from expressing all of my thoughts through my journaling. I found that it was a huge stress relief for me and a good way to let every unsaid thought come out in the open with no barriers, boundaries or fears.

I no longer have to hide my emotions or smother my feelings under a complacent smile. What an immense  joy that discovery is for my life today.

I hope it gives you great joy, too.


What an inspiration it was for me to read her words. I wish to thank my friend for stopping by to share this inspiration with us today. I’m continually discovering wonderful new methods on how to manage stress effectively. I also believe that Dr. Pennebaker’s methods not only offer you a great way to to use healing words to relieve tension and stress, but that this can also help heal your life, as well.

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10 Tips: How to Manage Stress and Improve The Quality of Your Life


How To Manage Stress Effectively To Improve The Quality of Your Life

How To Manage Stress and Live a Happier LifeYou are aware of the fact that your life can improve greatly by reducing stress and gaining the benefits of effective stress relief, but how do you start.

You’re in the right place and on the right path because simply seeking this type of growth is the first, most important step towards getting these benefits into your life.

With the right stress management techniques, you can deal with difficult situations much more productively and improve the overall quality of your life dramatically.

10 Tips to Improve The Quality of Your Life and Reduce Stress Now:

1. Stop Complaining.

Facts have proven that complaining does not help improve situations. Frankly, complaining actually creates feelings of powerlessness which can only increase, rather than decrease your stress levels.

2. Start Resolving.

Seek productive solutions. Discover what you can improve within yourself. Work with others in your situation to attempt to find the root cause of the problem rather than letting complaints stop the process of solution finding.

When you take action to fix the problem, it will not only eliminate the stress associated with that problem but it will also eliminate your feelings of helplessness, which are created by complaining.

3. Stop Whining.

Whining feeds the feelings of being a victim . It also increases your anger, which would lead to a great need for anger management.

Nearly everyone feels they’ve been treated unfairly at some point in their life, but there comes a time when it’s important to just get off the fence and move on.

Whining specifically helps those around you to see you as inadequate and treat you that way. It often has the opposite effect of what you really desire because it causes loss of respect and loss of self-esteem.

4. Start Empowering.

How To Manage Stress and Live a Happier LifeYou can strengthen your self-esteem speaking confidently about yourself. Pay attention to the dynamics of your voice and nip those whines in the bud! When you speak with an assertive tone to yourself & those around you, you regain the power that whining diminishes.

Practice confidence and you will be confident.
End this vicious circle of whining by viewing your situation and taking a proactive approach towards finding a solution.
CNN published a fascinating article about overcoming complaining and whining through a “venting fast”, so try some of these solutions to help.

5. Stop Blaming Others.

Blaming others is a natural response to many different situations. Shifting the focus of a negative experience away from yourself seems natural but it is not at all productive and it only prolongs agony and feelings of loss of control.

6. Start Taking Control.

Taking control of your life puts you in the driver’s seat. This is important for you to regain the power you let slip through your fingers when you blamed others. Taking control will give you a new vision and new resources for greater solutions.

This type of action demonstrates your confidence and your reliability. Others will be more likely to trust you with more responsibility once they see your capacity to take control instead of placing blame.

7. Stop Procrastinating.

Procrastination is cited by many people as a huge problem. However, remember that by putting things off until the last minute, you are effectively creating additional stress in your life. This is an area where effective stress management techniques will do you a world of good and make a huge difference in your happiness in life.

8. Start Planning.

One of the greatest ways that you can learn how to manage stress effectively is to learn how to plan effectively. I struggle with this myself, so I wrote The Only 5 Letter Word You Need To Overcome Procrastination and shared an effective system that can help you.

Giving yourself extra time to complete a project will offer you a good buffer to reduce stress.

9. Stop Harboring Negativity.

How To Manage Stress and Live a Happier LifeEveryone has been treated unfairly or been wronged in some way in their lives but holding on to the negative feelings associated with this is unhealthy. It’s also one of the fastest ways to block your vision from seeing the quality of life that you can efficiently access.

Negative feelings reinforce the habits which lead to the practice of tips #1,3,5, &7.

How many times have you seen something start out as:

“I’m so tired of being overweight” (#1).
Then go to “Why do so many people have a fast metabolism while I’m stuck with a slow metabolism” (#3). Then before you know it, it’s become “Well it’s my supervisor’s fault because with these hours, I don’t have time to make nutritious meals!” (#5).

All of these cycles require precious time and great energy, which leads to the procrastination we find in tip #7.
By implementing steps #2, #4, #6, #8 & this next tip, #10, you give yourself 5 concrete paths to change “being overweight” and discover new, easy to prepare delicious food!

10. Start Accepting New Ideas.

By letting go of grudges and negativity and you’ll have so much more free time to make important improvements. Use this new free time wisely by going about the same issues you’ve seen as patterns in your life, but with new ideas and resources with which to conquer them.

If you would like an in-depth look into how to manage stress with decision making and problem solving then you will find a vast resource of additional information by clicking that link which will take you to The Free Management Library.

In closing…

You’d be surprised at how much difference you can see in changing your stress levels with new stress management techniques. The breath of fresh air that new ideas and new methods bring will also get you unstuck from the past habits which only kept you in the cycle of those past habits.

By implementing these 10 stress management techniques you’ll be able to get immediate results. These are extremely important for improving the quality of your life and let’s face it, when you improve the quality of your life, you improve the quality of the time you share with those you love.

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Perception and Stress Relief: How Your Perception Affects The Way You Manage Stress


How To Use Your Perception To Manage Stress

If you’re reading this blog post and following this website, chances are, you would like to have better ways to manage stress and a better quality of life for yourself.

You want to keep yourself mentally fit against the many disturbances stress can cause and you care about improving yourself on a regular basis.

Many of us share those goals in life, but how many times do we stop to think of the effect our perception has on our ability to achieve these goals?

I won’t go into the exact metaphysics of how all of this works in daily life right now (although you might find a post going into this detailed aspect at a later date) :-) , but let’s just suffice the stress management strategy your’re looking for to say this:

“Whatever your current objectives are, know that you have the power  to determine your attitude, which is what will determine your overall success. It’s your capacity to choose your attitude which then defines your perception. And it is your perception which ultimately shapes your reality.”

How Does Your Perception Shape Your Reality?

If you perceive your reality with the negative thoughts, resulting in negative words, then your perceived reality gives you a negative attitude toward the object of your perception. It is this perception that makes it more difficult to find the solution or the success, in that perceived reality of negativity.

Which Stress Management Technique Works Best?

Many times, without being consciously aware of it, you just might inadvertently open the door for stress instead of consciously choosing effective stress management strategies. Let’s take a look at an example of this theory in action:

You’re waiting on line at the supermarket, which is packed, and the line you’re waiting on seems to be moving slower than the other lines.

You can:

A. See which line looks faster and plan a path to get there through the traffic of the supermarket so that you can finish your errand in the most time efficient manner.


B. Figure that getting to that “faster moving lane” is no guarantee that the other lane is going to keep moving faster, then use the time spent waiting in the line to mind map a great weekend for yourself or a new project you’re working on.

Both are plausible choices, so which would you choose?

Stress Management and Perception ImageMost often, if we are pressed for time, we might think situation A could be the best choice, but how many times have you done that just to find that the person right in front of you on the faster moving lane that you made the mad dash for has chosen to pay in cash, is looking for exact change (and the coins that they can’t seem to find) and even more, has chosen products which the cashier has to look up by hand because the price tags are wrong!

I guess we would just call that Murphy’s Law, but even still, this can be awfully frustrating when it happens during a time when you’re doing your best to be time efficient. (Which, strangely enough, always seems to be the time when things like that happen!)

The Role Of Perception In Stress Management

In order to effectively manage stress in all areas of your life, it’s really helpful to decide up front which type of attitude you want to carry with you throughout each day. By making this a conscious choice on a daily basis, you will find it easier to manage stress with a more effective perception of reality that you consciously choose, with awareness and direction, instead of falling into old habits. .

Stress Management and Positive Self-Talk ImageStress Management is more obviously understood as something to practice at work or with your family, in order to keep from getting angry with others. But stress management strategies are so much more because they are the keys to living your life free of tension in any situation. These are the strategies that you need  when it comes to enhancing the overall quality of your life.                                                      For example, even positive self-talk would be a great exercise you can do while waiting on the line at the supermarket. Combining words like those with your mind mapping of the project or your great weekend plans will help keep you on track with a positive attitude. (And make waiting on the line a lot easier.)

Try this little exercise in altering your perception the next time you find yourself feeling frustrated with “waiting on line at the supermarket”. I also invite you to use this as a metaphor for tons of situations that provoke feelings of tension.

I struggle with this myself and need to always remind myself that in the moment that my perception has placed a shadow over reality, it’s a lot harder to find the right attitude. But the right attitude is always there for the taking. What’s more, if I don’t reach out for the right attitude, the wrong perception can actually carry over into the following activities, placing a shadow over them, as well.

Effective Stress Management Strategies:
A Practical Example To Help Yourself Remember Your Options

How many times have you thought you were late, just to get there and find out that everyone else was just arriving at the same time that you were? (Yep, maybe they were on line at the supermarket, too!) :-)

So as it ends up, you find that you rushed and huffed and puffed for nothing. :-(

That’s what we call “unnecessary stress”, but it happens when our perception on the reality of “the line at the supermarket” is deemed bad, which then shapes our attitude, mood and disposition.

But the good news is that you can change that by changing your perception toward the stressful situations and applying healthy, effective stress management strategies which will keep your attitude positive and your success in anything, on track!
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