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Anger Management: Change the Cycle With These 5 Tips and Positive Affirmations

Posted by admin on November 18, 2011 Comments Off
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The Cycle Of Anger: You Can Change That Cycle Now

I know many people who have a “mad at the world” attitude, don’t you? To be honest with you, I’ve gone through those phases, as well. You do your best to plan and prepare, then something comes up and spoils it all. You work hard at your job and keep on top of things, then have problems getting the promotion you deserve. You give your children the best you can and they still have difficulties just living life in a good way. The list is endless.

There are so many things that disappoint you when you know you’ve done everything to ensure that you wouldn’t be disappointed and then consequently, you get angry. Many times, not with any singular situation, but with life in general. It all just seems so unfair and useless. It’s certainly not a time in life when you want to even think about positive affirmations.

So what do you do? When I feel down like that, first of all, I know I have to do something to change the cycle and grab some positive thoughts because if not, I can find myself in a downward spiraling cycle which can even result in depression and apathy. Has this ever happened to you? You have a bad morning, getting out of bed on the wrong foot, then that turns into a bad day, then before you know it, you’re whole week is shot! It’s like watching a train wreck…but in slow motion….and while being on the train. Ouch!

How To Change the Cycle of Anger: Coping With Anger Means Coping With Stress

It’s not an easy cycle to change, though I wish I could say it’s easy, but the good news is that it can be done. To start off with, since most likely, you’re not going to be in a place of being able to accept positive thoughts, positive affirmations, much less laughter therapy, it’s a good idea for you to do a quick check of where my perspective is at. Ask yourself questions like:

Am I giving permanent reality to temporary problems? (that one is big!)
Why am I so angry with everyone and everything?
What do you believe that they have done to you? (remember that beliefs can be changed.)

Perhaps what has really occured is a simple misunderstanding where good communication with that person will resolve the problem. As Dan Pallotta puts it in his article in the Harvard Business Review “anti-communication is the source of all misunderstanding, and misunderstanding is the source of 99% of our problems.”

Maybe in some cases, someone really has done you wrong, but one thing is for sure; if you react to their wrong doing by holding onto that anger, then whoever did you wrong will continue to have power over you by conditioning your life.

Perhaps their wrong doing was something that happened over a week ago, but your being angry today conditions the way you treat people and circumstances today, and it’s not so easy to get good results from people and circumstances when you bring anger to the table. Staying angry with someone or something is kind of like “I don’t have a solution, but I sure love this problem”. Take a look at 5 solutions.

Here Are 5 Anger Management Tips:

1. Do something you love:

Getting busy with the model car you’re building or your gardening will give you a positive outlet for all of the extra adrenalin anger produces.

Hay House, Inc.

2. Get outside and take a long, brisk walk:

Distancing yourself from the area will help calm your mental stress and the excercise will calm your physical stress from the situaton.

3. Speak it thoroughly out of your system:

Call an 800 number, your best friend or partner and let them help you to calm down.

4. Invite distractions:

It might sound odd, but this is actually a good time for you to get yourself distracted because anything that can move your mind from that which has angered you, will inevitably help you to calm down.
(Just remember to move your mind back into the process of facing whatever angered you after your anger has subsided.) :-)

5. Pump up the volume:

Listen to some of your favorite music and even sing along because this too, will keep your mind focused on the song you’re singing more than the anger you felt. (Needless to say, this might not be the best time to listen to those songs that have great tunes, but provoke violence.) :-)

What Do You Do When You’re Angry With Yourself?

Also within this cycle are the negative thoughts that you might have towards yourself. You know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed by life, right? Times when there just don’t seem to be enough hours in a day to get things done, and this can cause a lot of anger and resentment, as well. How many times have you heard the saying “there is method to my madness”, but the bottom line is that the less organized you are, the more difficult it is for you to get things done.

It’s kind of ironic I make such a bold statement like that because even though I grew up participating in a yearly family activity called “spring cleaning”, to be honest, it’s not something I carried into adult life as a yearly activity. For me, it’s usually more along the lines of “when the closets and drawers look like they’ll explode, I guess it’s time to clean out some things”!:-)

This leads me to this important question: do you harbor negative thoughts about yourself which are about things that you actually have control over? If you find yourself getting excessively angry with yourself over some particular issue in your life, ask yourself: “Can I change this? If so, what can I do to change this?” Positive affirmations were able to bring out better organizational skills and when you use positive self-talk, it helps you get on track much more quickly than getting angry with yourself.

One of the best ways this positive self-talk helps is to raise your awareness of what you can do to make your positive affirmations really become a realty in your life. Some things that helped me are these new resources I became more aware of, like the specialized organizational assistance I have with software I got here. Sure there are still times when I like a pen and paper, but more and more, software like this increases efficiency, saves time and hey, it’s weightless. You can also get the solution so many of us have found relief in plus new ideas on how to declutter your life by going to: Organize.com. Are you like those of us who have way too many paper documents contributing to clutter? Here’s another useful tool which will resolve that problem for you: TextBridge Pro 11 is the simple and fast way to convert paper into editable electronic documents!

You Can Tweak Your Anger Management Skills

The important thing to remember is that once you identify why you are angry, you can start taking steps to resolve that anger. Sitting with anger for a long time is not a good idea. Anger is a devious companion to have in life. Sure, there are times when anger can be channeled wisely to produce marvelous results of increased drive and determination, but more often than not, anger corrodes your inner happiness and peace.

But if you use a this new approach for coping with anger, the solutions will be easier to grasp and remain in your reach. Once you have a good hold of solutions, you will be in a better mindset. Laughter therapy can help accomplish this for you.

You know those moments when you don’t know if it’s better to laugh or to cry? Choose laughter! Laughter is your tool to get you to a place of peace from which you can begin to access the power of positive affirmations. The American Phychological Association actually lists humor as one of the ways they believe anger can be managed and you can find more on that, including their other suggestions by clicking here, The APA.

Pet therapy is a known fact to help manage anger.

Anger Knocks At The Door, But Peace Answers: Get That Special Place Of Peace

Be nice to yourself, do something good for yourself. There may be people who do things that get you down, but that doesn’t have to keep you down. Try using the power of positive affirmations to lift you up. If you have a situation where you believe someone has wronged you, try saying “I’m not going to let he or she stop me” instead of giving the wrongdoing more power by focusing on that wrongful action. Positive self-talk can really do a lot to help you turn the cycle around. What this little positive affirmation actually does is: it focuses your mind and your thoughts on your power to change the cycle and keeps you out of the reach of a negative cycle of anger. With positive thoughts and positive words in your life, you will automatically find positive actions which are in harmony with your mindset. You can also try journaling about how well you are overcoming that particular situation and writing down the new actions you plan to take so that you can physically see how that negative situation is actually bringing out the best in you. Try a nice, long relaxing bath, a good game of basketball with the fellas or some pet therapy. Managing anger is a lifelong responsibility, so it’s ok for you to give yourself the time you need. If the methods you tried before still brought you to the same results, maybe it’s time to try something new, like some laughter therapy and let the power of positive aaffirmations really start working for you!

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How To Use Positive Affirmations To Change Your Life Direction

Posted by admin on September 26, 2011 3 comments
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Positive Affirmations: Change Your Direction In Life

 

If you greet each day with worry, fear, no specific direction, feelings of uncertainty or even apprehension, you’re not giving yourself your best shot, but you can learn to change that now. There is no reason you can’t learn how to manage stress over these feelings much more effectively to turn yourself into a positive, upbeat individual; it will just take some practice, that’s all. One of the simplest ways to change your perception over how you greet each day is to incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine.


The last time you faced a challenge, did you tell yourself you couldn’t succeed or did you anticipate the opportunity to extend yourself as part of an exciting adventure? Too often those who tell themselves that they can’t succeed, don’t. They consider this justification of their anticipated defeat, not realizing that by determining the outcome before the event, that they actually led to their own demise.

Fortunately, by anticipating success you not only increase your odds of triumph, you also learn how to feel better if you have any setbacks along the way. Positive affirmations work to mold your perception and this is a vital key for releasing fear, worry and any negative emotion from the forefront of your mind so that you can more clearly see your path to victory.


Positive Words Lead to a Positive Attitude

Just as children can learn to think of themselves negatively as a result of hearing defeatist comments about themselves from parents, teachers or other important individuals, they can come to view themselves positively in the opposite environment. When those kids grow up, they carry these attitudes with them.How To Manage Stress With Positive Affirmations Image

For those adults, learning to feel good about themselves takes time and practice. Positive affirmations are the verbalization of positive thinking. They allow you to harness the power of the spoken word in a most helpful manner.

Regardless of whether your positive affirmations are directed towards business success, improving a relationship or building your self-esteem, positive self-talk gives you incredible power to affect the results.

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Why Positive Affirmations Work

 

How To Manage Stress With Positive Affirmations ImageWhen you phrase your affirmations properly, you take your subconscious thoughts and put them out in the open. The repetition reinforces your goals and the effect on your subconscious mind. Hearing your goals stated out loud helps strengthen your resolve to face the challenges with a good attitude.

Furthermore, if you are fighting against childhood training, each time you use a positive affirmation you are being reprogrammed to see yourself in a positive light. It doesn’t take long to form your new habit of positive self-esteem when you hear good things about yourself all the time.

A New Positive Outlook on Life Starts With You


Once you know what you want out of life, incorporating positive affirmations about that goal will help you stay on track to achieve it. For example, if you want to get a promotion at work, telling yourself daily that you have the skills, the drive and the talent to get the job is the first step towards success. Then all you have to do is to follow up with the actions that prove your affirmation to be true.

Do the work that displays your skills, drive yourself to take on extra responsibilities, and when the promotion is handed out, recognize that your hard work and inner approach made it possible.How To Manage Stress With Positive Affirmations Image

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “The world makes way for the man who knows where he is going,” and if you use positive affirmations to direct your actions, others around will notice your drive and direction of purpose. Positive affirmations can help you greet each day as a wonderful adventure just waiting to happen!

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Why and How Laughter Therapy Works

Posted by admin on September 26, 2011 Comments Off
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Laughter Therapy: Take The Path to Good Health

Blessed are those who can laugh at themselves for they shall never cease to be amused!

How can something as simple as laughter improve an individual’s overall health? Laughter is a remarkably complex mechanism, and the effects it has are equally complex. Combined with a positive attitude and the practice of visualization, laughter therapy can help people relieve stress, manage pain, overcome illness and live a healthier, more productive life.


What Happens When We Laugh?

Few people think about what happens when they laugh, but laughter actually causes a number of physical and chemical changes in the body. The act of laughing decreases the level of stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline while simultaneously increasing levels of endorphins and neurotransmitters. Antibody producing cells increase in number and T-cells, which fight infection, become more effective–boosting your immune response. Some studies even suggest that regular laughter can help you fight off the common cold.

Laughing can even provide you with an aerobic workout without hitting the gym. Something as simple as laughing 100 times provides the same amount of exercise as 15 minutes on a stationary bicycle–and it is a lot more fun too! Laughter works all of your muscles: respiratory, facial, legs, abdomen and back, while increasing blood oxygenation and flow. Best of all, even fake laughter offers the same benefits, so you can “fake it till you make it” and still reap the rewards!

Laughter is the Best Medicine for Many

Laughter in itself offers many benefits for individuals suffering from many conditions. Medical journals cite the use of laughter and humor as helpful and beneficial to patients with chronic conditions, pain, depression and a number of other ailments. Additionally, laughter has the benefit of being contagious and social. People suffering from long term illness are often isolated, spending a great deal of time in treatment; laughter gives them an outlet which is more than just medically therapeutic.

Positive Words Lead to a Positive Attitude

We are so accustomed to speaking negatively that we often don’t realize when we are doing so. Self-deprecating comments meant to redirect compliments; negative self-image and defeatist attitudes carry over from speech into thought and from thought into belief. Conversely, using positive words when speaking about oneself or facing a challenge creates an atmosphere where success is much more likely. Which kind of lifestyle do you want to have?

Success Feeds on a Positive Outlook

Applying the positive effects of laughter in the workplace makes it a more pleasant place to work. Employees are more likely to face challenges with excitement if they feel good about themselves and their colleagues. Teaching your staff to incorporate positive self-talk, laughter and creative visualization isn’t frivolous; it actually increases performance. These valuable lessons learned at work can carry over into employees’ home lives as well.

It doesn’t take long to create the kind of workplace you want for yourself and your employees. A few minutes a day is all you need to incorporate some simple, effective laughter therapy exercises into your routine, which will aid in stress relief and improve employee results in your office and your family relations in your home.

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Positive Words and Their Effect On Your Life

Posted by admin on September 26, 2011 Comments Off
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How Positive Words Can Change Your Outlook

 

“A man’s character may be learned from the adjectives which he habitually uses in conversation.” – Mark Twain

It is true what we’ve heard that the very words we use can change how we are perceived by others and how we perceive ourselves. Knowing that this is true gives you added incentive to use positive words, both when speaking about yourself and when addressing others, as well.

Can You Create a Positive Outlook on Life?

Dr. Seligman is a psychologist who leads the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania. He has had a long and distinguished career treating depression through techniques designed to adjust the way people view their situation.

His hypothesis was that many people suffered from learned helplessness which kept them from achieving desired success. By implementing a routine which, among other things, required individuals to actually document on a daily basis their successes, he developed an effective treatment protocol; this was dubbed learned optimism.

We can all take a lesson from this practice. Too often people focus on the negative aspects of a day and ignore those things which went well. Changing that pattern to embrace positive thinking may take practice, but it is extremely helpful in altering one’s perspective.

Which Benefits Will A Positive Attitude Give You?

There has been much concrete research correlating a positive attitude and health, so there no doubt as to the power of positive words. In a study conducted in Australia related to post-operative pain, it was found that when nurses used negative words to describe discomfort, patients reported more pain than if the nurses used neutral or positive words. This same technique can be applied to the psychological pain you encounter when dealing with all types of people from the colleagues who are less than cooperative to the instigating next door neighbor. It’s the difference between saying “I can’t stand the fact that my colleague is never on-time” or rephrasing that idea to reflect positive words by saying “My colleague continues to help me gain more patience”. With the former idea, you might feel stressed and irritated, but with the latter idea, you free your mind to focus on an aspect of your character which is gaining more power. By cultivating a positive attitude, you can see that you have gained something valuable thru the wait. Thus, that time spent waiting for your collegue can then be put to much more positive and practical good use.

Personal Development Goals: The World Around You

It’s also useful to remember that using positive words and presenting a positive attitude can have a profound effect upon both you and those around you too. Optimistic people are generally more successful and happier than those who are pessimistic. One study even found optimism may even offer some level of protection from mental and/or physical illness (Taylor et al., 2000). This is one of the reasons why we propose Laughter Therapy to help you maintain a positive outlook on life. It is natural to desire to have better family relations, more productivity in your profession and a healthy social life, so why not employ every technique you can to attain these fundamental goals? Even if you’ve never tried Laughter Therapy before, now is a great time to start!

Steps Toward Positive Words

If you are searching for a way to increase your positive vocabulary, the below is a process that can really help you alot and it is fairly simple to apply.

• Evaluate how often you use negative or pessimistic language throughout your day.
• Find ways to rephrase negative language in a positive fashion. For example, rather than tell people what
they can’t do, help them see what they can do. This applies to yourself, as well!


• Start each day with positive affirmations. Pick your own or find a positive quote on our quotes pages. Repeat them throughout the day to help you keep your thoughts on track.
• Each night, write down three things that went well during your day or that you liked about your day.
 

Your New Positive Outlook On Life! 

Dale Carnegie said “If we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable thoughts, we will be miserable.” Simply becoming aware of the negative thoughts you may have previously inadvertently allowed to become part of your day will help you to decrease them. It’s beginning the process of pinpointing these negative thoughts that is so fundamental and paramount to your being able to see where you can implement your positive affirmations and inspirational words. Are the negative thoughts things you say to yourself while rushing out of the door or while having dinner? Are they most seen when you’re relaxing and joking with friends or perhaps, spoken by the gathering spot in the office? Look for where these negative thought creep into your life so that you’ll have a clear idea of where you can eliminate them from your life. By taking small steps, such as using more positive, inspirational words, you can change your perceptions over time, allowing yourself to enjoy life more fully.

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Self-Esteem and Laughter: How Do You Feel About You?

Posted by admin on September 21, 2011 1 comments
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Feel Better About Yourself With The Power of Laughter Therapy



 

Your Powerful Tool: Laughter Therapy

When was the last time you enjoyed a really good belly laugh? How about the last time you laughed at yourself? The power of laughter is impressive, but as we grow up we often forget how good it feels to laugh. Too often, we tend to get all caught-up in the regular routine of day to day life, but we can also choose to remember this important tool and take the vital steps in implementing it into our daily routine. Laughter therapy offers you an opportunity to get back in touch with your lighter side of life and it also provides you with numerous unexpected benefits as well!
 

It’s More than a Laughing Matter

A common misperception about laughter therapy is that all it means is standing with others in a circle while laughing. It is true that some of the exercises or group sessions do call for people to do exactly that, but there is much more involved. Laughter must be combined with positive self-talk, optimistic thinking, and an affirmative attitude to achieve truly remarkable results. Sure, you can practice this excercise in mnay ways, but the most important thing is to discover what works best for you. It might be that laughter yoga works best for you, or possibly, watching stand-up comedy is a good method. Whatever your method, you will gain tremendous benefits by incorporating this into your regular routine.

The Science Behind the Humor

The effects of humor and a positive attitude have not been lost on the medical community. In fact, a growing number of research studies are being conducted to evaluate the connection between humor, self-esteem and health. One such study, carried out at the University of Indiana, demonstrated a direct correlation between humor and health. The researchers reached the following conclusions:
 

• “Laughter is believed to act as a coping mechanism to relieve stress, improve self-esteem and reduce psychological symptoms related to negative life events.”
• “Sense of humor is often connected to higher levels of self-esteem.”
• “Sense of humor was also related to higher scores and quality of life in undergraduates.”
 

Does a sense of humor necessarily equal better self-esteem? No. However, the research, which is still in its infancy, indicates that people with an ability to maintain their sense of humor during a challenge fare much better than those who don’t. Furthermore, a sense of humor is vitally important for anyone seeking to improve their self-esteem. If you can laugh at yourself, then you feel less imtimidated by the world around you. In this case, no one is able to laugh at you because you have already set a platform upon which they can only laugh with you. Once you accept laughter therapy as a viable method for improving the quality of your life, you can utilize it for many areas in your life from improving your self-esteem to getting the promotion at work, or any area in your life that you seek to transform.

Positive Thinking Leads to a Positive Attitude


The first step in positive thinking actually involves eliminating negative thinking from your daily experiences. There are several steps to take.


• Don’t Filter. Learn to see the whole experience, not just the bad parts. Negative thinkers tend to focus on one mistake in a collection of good choices, which rather obliviates the good choices made.

• Don’t Catastrophize. If one negative experience makes you think that your whole day is ruined, you need to put things back into perspective. Too often we tend to give permanent reality to temporary situations/chaleenges.

• Avoid Black and White Visualization. Few things in life are entirely good or completely bad. This holds true for people, too. Negative thinking forces you to see things in this fashion, either all good or all bad. Look for shades of gray and colors.

Once you start looking for moments where you engage in negative thinking it will be easier to replace those thoughts with positive ones:

• Practice Positive Self-Talk. Learning to speak positively to yourself takes time and practice, especially if it is a new skill. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Look for small things you can start with and build up. A good rule of thumb is that if you wouldn’t say it to someone else, don’t say it to yourself.

• Look for Humor. Once you take a step back from a stressful situation you can often find something funny in it. Just the simple act of laughing will make you feel better and boost your self-esteem.

• Choose One Goal. Changing everything would be overwhelming for anyone. Pick just one aspect of your life you want to work on and stick with it until you feel that you have made some good progress.

By using these techiniques, you are bound to see a difference in not only your self-esteem, but also in your life and your interaction with others.

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