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How To Manage Your Inner Critic Stress Levels: 3 Basic Solutions

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How To Manage Your Inner Critic Stress Levels


It’s very odd how many of us fail to listen to that tiny voice inside ourselves, perhaps because of fear of what it might say to us. The inner critic challenges and undermines our self-confidence in our decision making process with life issues and this affects how you manage stress. As a matter of fact, the inner critic is one of the most devious sources of stress known to mankind.

Yet, this voice can be the all-commanding mentor giving you loads of positive words to fill your mind with positive thoughts. The pessimistic inner critic takes over when facing challenges where you might need extra courage or strength. This is when that inner voice tries to convince you of all the reasons why you wouldn’t be able to do it.

Don’t believe the lies your inner voice tries to tell you.

Your Inner Critic Affects Your Decision Making Process

Manage stress of your inner critic imageYour inner critic was also given to you to keep you safe and help you see danger signs, but when it’s counter productive to your decision making process and hence, your growth as an individual, new measures must be taken. As reported in this article, Harvard Business Review on How To Manage Your Inner Critic, even people with much success report difficulty with managing the stress of their inner critic. Exploring how to manage stress effectively takes on many forms, but it’s something that affects us all.

Much of this boils down to your inner belief systems. As you’ve read here on Laughs Heal, we’ve covered and will continue to cover ways to change your belief systems. In Positive Affirmations Won’t Work For You Unless…, you discovered the difference between positive affirmations that work and those that don’t. You also have a case study with How To Manage Stress To Gain Success: A Formula with 10 Benefits.

These are helpful in understanding and having a plan of action to change your belief systems, along with many other articles in our archives. But the inner critic is a not so obvious source of stress in defeating the success of your inner belief systems.

So continuing to examine ways to improve your inner belief systems, we must address your inner critic. You inner critic is not only a huge source of stress, but it also makes discovering how to manage stress effectively, more important. Thank goodness there are solutions!

Here Are 3 Basic Solutions for Silencing Your Inner Critic:
The 3 R’s

1. Recognize Your Inner Critic

Use The 3 R’s
To Silence Your
Inner Critic:
Recognize
Release
Reconsctruct

When you recognize which voice is your inner critic from the good judgement which keeps you from dangerous situations, you will have accomplished a huge step! Once you know the difference, you can see where your inner critic might just be fear of stepping out of your comfort zone to accomplish new goals. However, you know that your inner critic cannot keep you from accomplishing new goals, unless you allow it to.

Once you complete this step, you have the power back in your hands. You can change your decision making process to include activities which help you to step out of your comfort zone and overcome that voice that tries to tell you that you can’t.

2. Release Your Inner Critic

Having recognized that the voice was only your inner critic, it is easier to face it head on and then release it from your consciousness. It’s amazing how many people are not even aware of the fact that they have an inner critic and this only makes that source of stress stronger. Ignoring the inner voice has never resolved the negative, pessimistic results it produces.

By recognizing and releasing it, you acknowledge that it was there, but you let it go. Once you do that, you are ready to take action in the opposite direction of what your inner voice was telling you.

3. Reconstruct Your Inner Voice To Relay Self-Confidence

Steps #1 and #2 give you clarity and clean out the dust of the old thought patterns which were not doing you any good. Step #3 reinforces the bonus benefits you get from the first 2 steps by creating new habits of thought patterns. It’s just as easy to say something nice to yourself as it is to let the inner critic have its way, so by reclaiming your power over your thoughts, it gets easier to choose the thoughts you really want to keep about yourself.

No one can define you like you can! Choose to define yourself with positive words and you will see positive results.

You Can Win Over Your Inner Critic and Manage Stress Effectively!

These are well tested methods for creating new inner belief systems and have been used in many different philosophies throughout time. When your decision making process is hampered by your inner critic, you can look at it just as a simple way of your inner voice telling you that you’re ready for a change.

You can change the habits of your inner voice! You can discover how to go through the decision making process without any negativity or undue pessimism. Surely positive self-talk will go a long way in helping you to change these patterns and solidify your choice to conquer your inner critic.

Laughter therapy will also help you to keep a light hearted approach towards this change. Learning how to manage stress means looking at all of the sources of stress in your daily life and your inner critic is one source of stress which can be defeated.

Let your next decision making process be that of choosing to take action to get rid of your inner critic. It will help you to lead a much more balanced and satisfying lifestyle.

Here’s to your inner self-confidence success!

Which areas of dealing with your inner self critic and belief systems have been the most challenging for you? Comment on it and we can come up with some helpful tools for you!

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Anger Management: Change the Cycle With These 5 Tips and Positive Affirmations

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Anger Management:
The Cycle Of Anger=>You Can Change That Cycle Now


I know many people who have a “mad at the world” attitude, don’t you? To be honest with you, I’ve gone through those phases, as well. You do your best to plan and prepare, then something comes up and spoils it all. You work hard at your job and keep on top of things, then have problems getting the promotion you deserve. You give your children the best you can and they still have difficulties just living life in a good way. The list is endless.

There are so many things that disappoint you when you know you’ve done everything to ensure that you wouldn’t be disappointed and then consequently, you get angry. Many times, not with any singular situation, but with life in general. It all just seems so unfair and useless. It’s certainly not a time in life when you want to even think about positive affirmations.

So what do you do? When I feel down like that, first of all, I know I have to do something to change the cycle and grab some positive thoughts because if not, I can find myself in a downward spiraling cycle which can even result in depression and apathy. Has this ever happened to you? You have a bad morning, getting out of bed on the wrong foot, then that turns into a bad day, then before you know it, you’re whole week is shot! It’s like watching a train wreck…but in slow motion….ouch!

How To Change the Cycle of Anger: Coping With Anger Means Coping With Stress

How to mange stress: Anger Management ImageIt’s not such an easy cycle to change, though I wish I could say it’s easy, but the good news is that it can be done. To start off with, since most likely, you’re not going to be in a place of being able to accept positive thoughts, positive affirmations, much less laughter therapy, it’s a good idea for you to do a quick check of where my perspective is at. Ask yourself questions like:

Am I giving permanent reality to temporary problems? (that one is big!)
Why am I so angry with everyone and everything?
What do you believe that they have done to you? (remember that beliefs can be changed.)

Perhaps what has really occured is a simple misunderstanding where good communication with that person will resolve the problem. As Dan Pallotta puts it in his article in the Harvard Business Review “anti-communication is the source of all misunderstanding, and misunderstanding is the source of 99% of our problems.”

Maybe in some cases, someone really has done you wrong, but one thing is for sure; if you react to their wrong doing by holding onto that anger, then whoever did you wrong will continue to have power over you by conditioning your life.

Perhaps their wrong doing was something that happened over a week ago, but your being angry today conditions the way you treat people and circumstances today, and it’s not so easy to get good results from people and circumstances when you bring anger to the table. Staying angry with someone or something is kind of like “I don’t have a solution, but I sure love this problem”. Take a look at 5 solutions.

Here Are 5 Anger Management Tips:

1. Do something you love:

Go get busy with the model car you’re building or your gardening.  Doing something you love will give you a positive outlet for all of the extra adrenalin that anger produces.

2. Get outside and take a long, brisk walk:

Distancing yourself from the area will help calm your mental stress and the excercise will calm your physical stress from the situaton.

3. Speak it thoroughly out of your system:

Call an 800 number, your best friend or partner and let them help you to calm down.

4. Invite distractions:

It might sound odd, but this is actually a good time for you to get yourself distracted because anything that can move your mind from that which has angered you, will inevitably help you to calm down.
(Just remember to move your mind back into the process of facing whatever angered you after your anger has subsided.) :-)

5. Pump up the volume:

Listen to some of your favorite music and even sing along because this too, will keep your mind focused on the song you’re singing more than the anger you felt. (Needless to say, this might not be the best time to listen to those songs that have great tunes, but provoke violence.) :-)

What Do You Do When You’re Angry With Yourself?

Also within this cycle are the negative thoughts that you might have towards yourself. You know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed by life, right? Times when there just don’t seem to be enough hours in a day to get things done, and this can cause a lot of anger and resentment, as well. How many times have you heard the saying “there is method to my madness”, but the bottom line is that the less organized you are, the more difficult it is for you to get things done.

It’s kind of ironic I make such a bold statement like that because even though I grew up participating in a yearly family activity called “spring cleaning”, to be honest, it’s not something I carried into adult life as a yearly activity. For me, it’s usually more along the lines of “when the closets and drawers look like they’ll explode, I guess it’s time to clean out some things”!:-)

This leads me to this important question: do you harbor negative thoughts about yourself which are about things that you actually have control over? If you find yourself getting excessively angry with yourself over some particular issue in your life, ask yourself: “Can I change this? If so, what can I do to change this?” Positive affirmations helped me bring out better organizational skills.  When you use positive self-talk, it helps you get on track much more quickly than getting angry with yourself.

One of the best ways this positive self-talk helps is to raise your awareness of what you can do to make your positive affirmations really become a realty in your life. Some things that helped me are these new resources I became more aware of, like the specialized organizational assistance I have with software I got here. Sure there are still times when I like a pen and paper, but more and more, software like this increases efficiency, saves time and hey, it’s weightless. You can also get the solution so many of us have found relief in plus new ideas on how to declutter your life by going to: Organize.com. Are you like those of us who have way too many paper documents contributing to clutter? Then try this useful tool which will resolve that problem for you: TextBridge Pro 11 is the simple and fast way to convert paper into editable electronic documents!

You Can Tweak Your Anger Management Skills


The important thing to remember is that once you identify why you are angry, you can start taking steps to resolve that anger. Sitting with anger for a long time is not a good idea. Anger is a devious companion to have in life. Sure, there are times when anger can be channeled wisely to produce marvelous results of increased drive and determination, but more often than not, anger corrodes your inner happiness and peace.

But if you use a this new approach for coping with anger, the solutions will be easier to grasp and remain in your reach. Once you have a good hold of solutions, you will be in a better mindset. Laughter therapy can help accomplish this for you.

You know those moments when you don’t know if it’s better to laugh or to cry? Choose laughter! Laughter is your tool to get you to a place of peace from which you can begin to access the power of positive affirmations. The American Phychological Association actually lists humor as one of the ways they believe anger can be managed and you can find more on that, including their other suggestions by clicking here, The APA.

How To Manage Stress: Anger Management

Pet therapy is a known fact to help manage anger.

Anger Knocks At The Door, But Peace Answers: Get That Special Place Of Peace

Be nice to yourself, do something good for yourself. There may be people who do things that get you down, but that doesn’t have to keep you down. Try using the power of positive affirmations to lift you up. If you have a situation where you believe someone has wronged you, try saying “I’m not going to let he or she stop me” instead of giving the wrongdoing more power by focusing on that wrongful action. Positive self-talk can really do a lot to help you turn the cycle around. What this little positive affirmation actually does is: it focuses your mind and your thoughts on your power to change the cycle and keeps you out of the reach of a negative cycle of anger. With positive thoughts and positive words in your life, you will automatically find positive actions which are in harmony with your mindset. You can also try journaling about how well you are overcoming that particular situation and writing down the new actions you plan to take so that you can physically see how that negative situation is actually bringing out the best in you. Try a nice, long relaxing bath, a good game of basketball with the fellas or some pet therapy. Managing anger is a lifelong responsibility, so it’s ok for you to give yourself the time you need. If the methods you tried before still brought you to the same results, maybe it’s time to try something new, like some laughter therapy and let the power of positive aaffirmations really start working for you!

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Your 5 Day Plan For A More Positive YOU! Take The Challenge!

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How to manage stress with a positive attitudeMake a Plan for Using Positive Words



Set a Date Because Here’s Your Plan: Start Reaping Your Rewards!
When I’m not in my right mind, my left mind tends to get rather crowded, so I have to make some real effort to be positive if I really want to see results. A lot of people say they want to be more positive, but how many are willing to take a serious, measured approach toward obtaining this very feasible goal? In order to succeed with anything in life, you need a plan. Especially for someone new to the idea of using positive words, visualizations and positive affirmations. This can be a challenging process, but it’s also very exciting, so try this 5 day challenge! By formulating a secure strategy right now, you have a much better chance of reaching your goals. Let’s look at some tips that will help you accomplish your objectives.



Day 1

 
Sit down, either on your own, with your partner or with someone you trust, and set several SMART goals you want to achieve. S.M.A.R.T., meaning:

  • for specific.
  • for measurable.
  • for attainable.
  • R for relative.
  • for time bound

To determine these goals, you need to effectively and honestly evaluate your current emotional state of mind and select several areas in your life upon which you want to work. Alot is being said about emotional intelligence these days, so it is an important measurment to calculate into your plan of action when remembering to keep S.M.A.R.T. vision for your goals. You might choose to start with your goals for creating greater levels of emotional intelligence so that you will be assisted by that power in achieving your professional, personal, or social goals. Write your goals down, remembering to include a time frame in which you can realistically complete your goals.

Day 2How to manage stress with a positive attitude

 


Get online and select several positive sayings or affirmations you will use from this point forward. Also, set priorities that are in harmony with your new plan. For example, if motivational stories help you, then place finding 3 motivational stories as your priority. Some people are more moved by inspirational movies, so find a few of those to watch during your weekly scheduling of activities. Whatever your source, find your fuel for positive action and set it as a priority in your life.
It is good idea to start your day with at least one positive affirmation. Repetition is most effective, so you may choose to have a particular affirmation for each given day. For example, on Monday you may opt to have work-related quotes, on Tuesday those relating to relationships and so on. If this is the first time for you to actively approach this idea, then you might choose to start off with 1 basic all encompassing affirmation and memorize that to utilize for your daily nutrition of positive words. Yes, we use the words “daily nutrition” because just as we take vitamins for our daily health nutrition, it’s a good idea to think of the positive words we need for our mental and emotional nutrition, as we have daily requirements for those, as well. This type of nutrition has enormous impact for your self-image! Remember to repeat your positive words throughout the day, as well. The more repetition you can give to these inspirational sayings, the more power they will have to be reflected in your life!How to manage stress with a positive attitude


Day 3

 


Start to keep a journal of the positive events that occurred throughout your day. You may have completed a project at work or gone that extra mile at the gym. Perhaps you and your partner worked through some emotional difficulty without yelling. At first this exercise may seem stilted and forced, but over time it becomes easier to find successes to chart. The key is to seek positivity in your life and writing down the positive events in your life directs you to give focus to them as you write. It also gives an enormous boost to your self-esteem as you begin to tangibly see in black and white all of the positive changes that are taking place in your life. It enhances your gratitude and an attitude of gratitude will undoubtedly bring you more happiness and appreciation in your life as you continue to move towards your goals. Actually, these things give you the necessary fuel to accomplish new goals. This is a great way to keep your fuel for positive action at high levels.How to manage stress with a positive attitude

Day 4

 


Continue to use your affirmations, and take another look at your S.M.A.R.T. goals. Will you need any help to achieve some of them? Would a mentor, coach or partner help you stay on track? Could a class give you some additional skills to make one or more of your goals more attainable? We have found a program for improving computer skills online and since it’s helped over 1 million people around the world, it could be useful for you too: Click Here!. This is a good time to find new tools that you will use to help you live a more positive life. If taking an new course would help, there are many you can try, for example: 360training.com- Leading Provider of Continuing Education, Certification & Career Skills and Compliance Solutions This is also a good time to properly assess how these new ideas fit you and your life. Do you see your positive outlook on life changing the way you face life? Have you been consistent with your application? If not, look for ways you can improve on that aspect. Look for how these positive words are reflected in your daily life and remember to enter them into the journaling process you started on Day 3.How to manage stress with a positive attitude

Day 5

 


In addition to the rewards you will receive simply from living in a more positive way, what kinds of tangible incentives would help you keep on track? Small indulgences are wonderful motivators and, if you select the right ones, can actually increase your success, so it’s important to remember to reward yourself. If you have a goal of always looking professional at work, then rewarding yourself for a week of consistent journaling with a new tie, a manicure or a new day planner is a great idea. A book of positive self-talk affirmations by your favorite author may be your reward for facing and conquering a challenge successfully. These inspirational sayings can do alot to keep you on track, so it’s a good idea to surround yourself with them. Again, writing down your plan will help you stick to it and reach the goal. This act of writing is also a form of practice, focus, and consistency.

You’re Done and On Your New Path In Life

How to manage stress with a positive attitudeThe process of changing how you react to life’s tests is a gradual one. In a way it is like cleaning out a particularly cluttered basement. The space has a great deal of potential, but you have to do the work to get all the old junk cleaned out before you can enjoy the new rewards and reap their benefits. Whether you are cleaning out your “vocabulary closet” or your “pessimistic attic”, give yourself credit for every little step, no matter how tiny it might seem. If this 5 Day Plan is a bit fast, then give yourself 1 week for each daily activity and make it a 5 Week Plan. The core issue is to get started and give yourself the time you need to implement these activities as consistent aspects of your daily routine. The kinder you are to yourself by using positive words and images, the smoother your transformation will be into this new optimistic you!

Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning. – Mahatma Gandhi

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