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How To Overcome Fear: 4 Letters With New A New Definition For Fear

Posted by author on April 19, 2012 2 comments
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How To Overcome Fear: Coping With Stress


Earlier this week, we discussed change and how to deal with the differences that change makes in your life, so today, I thought it would be nice to go into one of the major aspects that tend to make change and acceptance of change, much more challenging.

In one word, it’s fear that makes change a challenge to face, accept and manage. So today, we’ll delve into how to overcome fear.

Fears are educated into us,
and can,
if we wish,
be educated out.
Karl Augustus Menninger

How to overcome fear and cope with stress imageHere too, we need to look at inner belief symptoms because being raised in an overly protective or overly permissive environment can affect the fears you might still carry today. However, fear in itself, is a natural instinct that pertains to all human beings. On its good side, fear what keeps us from doing things which could place us in danger, so it’s not all bad.

However, when fear stops you from doing something you would like to be able to do, it’s time to evaluate your inner belief systems and make some adjustments. It’s time to empower yourself to go forth with self-confidence, strength, and conviction.

One good point to remember is that fear itself, does not exist in the here and now.

I am not afraid of tomorrow,
for I have seen yesterday
and I love today.
William Allen White

If you are fearful, it is most likely over something that you’re wondering about in the tomorrows or something you’re reflecting on from the yesterdays. Yesterday and tomorrow only rob you of today by creating anxiety and anguish. Whatever was, is gone and whatever might be, is greatly affected by the right here and now, and you can change that minute by minute.

The here and now is where you have your greatest capacity to make changes and create new tomorrows. Even if you’re in the process of performing an action which is fearful to you, in the moment that you begin the action, you have the power to hold your focus more on the action that you are performing, than on the fear of it. This is precisely where important tools like creative visualization help you and empower you to create the tomorrow that you see for yourself….free of fear.

How Do You Spell Fear? You Can Overcome Fear



We’ve all heard the acronym of F.E.A.R. is only False Evidence Appearing Real, but today, I’d like to give you a new acronym for fear, as well. When you face your feelings surrounding fear, you can use these ideas to see fears with a new perspective.

F for Fortress

You have within you an incredible untapped power to overcome your fear. A great quote on this idea is:
If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.
Marcus Aurelius

Claim your power by reinforcing your fortress. Empower yourself with positive self-talk and you will find your thoughts changing, too.

Your body is the fortress that holds your soul, so make sure to stock up on ample anti-stress vitamin rich foods so that you place yourself in the best condition to feel your body as a true fortress.

E is for Empower

Use uplifting ideas to empower yourself and keep yourself around uplifting people. If there are any people who don’t believe in your power to overcome your fear, then either stay away from them or severely limit your time with them.

You are on the path of strengthening your fortress and propelling your inner power forward. It’s extremely important to keep your personal space safe and protected from negativity.

Stuart Wilde wrote a captivating book which is designed to really get you pepped up with miracle making personal empowerment from the moment you start reading. This book will show you how to locate, develop and magnify your “silent power”. Read a page in the morning, take it with you to read during your lunch, place it on your nightstand to read before sleeping.

If you immerse yourself in the philosophies of this book then these are the philosophies that immerse themselves within and throughout your life. Your inner belief systems feel the change as you begin to see it in your world.

A is for Adjust

It’s time to get ready for a new you and this means adjusting to your decision to adapt a new approach in overcoming fear. You’ll want to exercise your new power by starting with the little things. Perhaps things that you’ve procrastinated for fear of the energy or time commitment.

Things like cleaning out the attic, the basement or the garage might be good mini fears to overcome. Anything that will get you out of your comfort zone of excuse making is going to be something that is going to help you start adjusting to the new you who conquers fears with ease. This might even be a good time to willingly choose a different route to work, just to get your mind into exploring different paths.

R is for Relaxation

Enhance your relaxation techniques and skills with some guided relaxation MP3′s and CD’s like: Guided Relaxation for the Body and Mind

Listening to relaxing music can also help, given that music therapy is a widely used technique for relaxation today. Build up your relaxation capacities by trying something specific, soothing and tranquilizing every day. You will be surprised how much easier you find it to relax after even as little as 7 days of dedication.

Reinforce your relaxation techniques and skills with calming words to yourself like “I’m calm and serene and can do everything that needs to be done by me today”. The more calm you are, the less chance fear has to get you in its grip. Positive affirmations help keep your mind focused on the you that you’d like to be and this gives you the power to recreate your reality.

I’m going to leave you with some quotes which I hope will brighten and lighten your perspective on fear and your capacity to overcome fear. Refer back to the quotes that give you a special feeling or meaning when reading because those quotes will most like be your motivating pivotal points for your success in overcoming fear.

Here’s to your triumph over fear, you can do this!

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Quotes For Overcoming Fear

Who sees all beings in his own self, and his own self in all beings, loses all fear.
Isa Upanishad, Hindu Scripture

Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.
Japanese Proverb

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Dale Carnegie

Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not.
Virgil Thomson

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.
Gandhi

Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark, professionals built the Titanic.
Unknown

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Change: What To Do About It: 4 Tools To Get You Great Results

Posted by author on April 17, 2012 4 comments
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How To Cope With Stress Concerning Change


When coping with stress, one of the biggest difficulties we face with the decision making process is always going to be centered around change. No matter where we are or what we do, change is going to be an inevitable fact about life. Yet and still, I don’t know about you, but I tend to have a great aversion towards change.

At times, even something as simple as having to change your regular route because of construction can be enough to challenge your sense of peace and well being, especially if you’re pressed for time. Not to mention changes in appointment schedules which, with one swoop, can set into motion a type of domino effect for all consecutive appointments. Change, even the slightest, can strike suspense, mystery, confusion, doubt and fear.

We, as humans, are habitual creatures. We like the fact that we can perform certain tasks like making breakfast in the morning or driving to work, without having to think about them. Besides, who really wants to rethink simple mundane, monotonous tasks, much less the big tasks that some changes bring?

How To Reprogram Your Mind To Accept Change

First of, let me start off by congratulating you! If you’re reading this now, chances are, you’ve already survived change in your life many, many times, so kudos to you for that! If you’re facing new changes in your life at the present moment, let me start off by encouraging you.

Coping with stress and change imageThe fact that you have already survived the challenges of past changes in your life is your proof positive that you can and you will, survive any current challenge of change you may be facing. Fuel yourself with the enormous positive energy of the changes that you have already overcome so that you begin to gain new belief systems about your capacity to overcome today’s challenge of change, as well.

This case study: a formula for success details how you can do this with ease, comfort and pleasure.

Another good thing to keep in mind is the fact that change does not have to be a bad thing. When you embrace change with a healthy positive attitude, you find yourself gaining advatnages, benefits and personal development skills that dramatically improve the quality of your life.

So exactly how do you cope with stress and change so that your decision making process comes from a place inside of you that is the opposite of doubt, fear and confusion?

Here are a few helpful strategies that are your best assets for facing change:


1. Believe you can cope with stress effectively

As you’ve already read here at Laughs Heal in the past, your inner belief systems are fundamental in determining how you relate to the world around you. Use the process of change to enhance and strengthen  your inner belief systems so that you gain these reinforced advantages, as well.

You get the upper hand when you practice the use of positive words applied in a powerful method called positive self-talk.

These are tools to lift up your vision and belief sytems by helping you to know that you are coping with change and stress effectively.

2. Read inspirational stories to empower your decision making process

No matter what changes you face, there are bound to be inspirational stories about others who have overcome the same difficulties and challenges that you face. Immerse yourself in their real life facts of how they overcame adversity and know that they are proof positive that you can too.

The nice thing about reading inspirational strories is that they also give your inner belief systems a nice boost and they keep your mind focused on the countless opportunities of what you can do to overcome the stress of change.

3. Use the 1 action verb to help you embrace change

As you’re going through the exercises outlined in “The 1 Action Verb To Get You From Stressed To Refreshed”, you will be putting into powerful action the 1 greatest muscle and tool you have: Your Mind Tools.

You will also begin to notice a strange coincidence: almost everything that you gather from your life in order to complete those exercises, are things which were born out of change.

These are the concrete reasons why you need not doubt your decision making process. It’s human nature to question if our decisions are sound when going through the decision making process, but in order to cope with stress effectively, it’s also important to silence your inner critic and begin to trust yourself and your capacities.

The 1 action verb is a great vehicle to render that journey smooth, easy and placid.

4. Let creative visualization help you

Creative Visualization
Gives You The Power
To Paint The Picture
Of Your Best Life
Experience

Once you’ve gotten rid of the negative connotations that might have been present concerning any change you face, you are ready to start with a fresh and clean slate.

Like a painters begin their artwork on a clean canvas, let creative visualization help you to paint a beautifully fulfilling and satisfying picture of your life throughout the process of change.

There may be things about your change that you don’t have power over, but even if “construction has blocked your regular route” you’re still the person driving the car.

By placing these ideas into action in your life surrounding any challenges of change, you are bound to go through the decision making process with less stress and when you practice coping with stress using tools that give you positive energy, you are bound to face changes in life with victory!

Here’s to you getting great results with change!

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How To Manage Your Inner Critic Stress Levels: 3 Basic Solutions

Posted by author on April 3, 2012 13 comments
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How To Manage Your Inner Critic Stress Levels


It’s very odd how many of us fail to listen to that tiny voice inside ourselves, perhaps because of fear of what it might say to us. The inner critic challenges and undermines our self-confidence in our decision making process with life issues and this affects how you manage stress. As a matter of fact, the inner critic is one of the most devious sources of stress known to mankind.

Yet, this voice can be the all-commanding mentor giving you loads of positive words to fill your mind with positive thoughts. The pessimistic inner critic takes over when facing challenges where you might need extra courage or strength. This is when that inner voice tries to convince you of all the reasons why you wouldn’t be able to do it.

Don’t believe the lies your inner voice tries to tell you.

Your Inner Critic Affects Your Decision Making Process

Manage stress of your inner critic imageYour inner critic was also given to you to keep you safe and help you see danger signs, but when it’s counter productive to your decision making process and hence, your growth as an individual, new measures must be taken. As reported in this article, Harvard Business Review on How To Manage Your Inner Critic, even people with much success report difficulty with managing the stress of their inner critic. Exploring how to manage stress effectively takes on many forms, but it’s something that affects us all.

Much of this boils down to your inner belief systems. As you’ve read here on Laughs Heal, we’ve covered and will continue to cover ways to change your belief systems. In Positive Affirmations Won’t Work For You Unless…, you discovered the difference between positive affirmations that work and those that don’t. You also have a case study with How To Manage Stress To Gain Success: A Formula with 10 Benefits.

These are helpful in understanding and having a plan of action to change your belief systems, along with many other articles in our archives. But the inner critic is a not so obvious source of stress in defeating the success of your inner belief systems.

So continuing to examine ways to improve your inner belief systems, we must address your inner critic. You inner critic is not only a huge source of stress, but it also makes discovering how to manage stress effectively, more important. Thank goodness there are solutions!

Here Are 3 Basic Solutions for Silencing Your Inner Critic:
The 3 R’s

1. Recognize Your Inner Critic

Use The 3 R’s
To Silence Your
Inner Critic:
Recognize
Release
Reconsctruct

When you recognize which voice is your inner critic from the good judgement which keeps you from dangerous situations, you will have accomplished a huge step! Once you know the difference, you can see where your inner critic might just be fear of stepping out of your comfort zone to accomplish new goals. However, you know that your inner critic cannot keep you from accomplishing new goals, unless you allow it to.

Once you complete this step, you have the power back in your hands. You can change your decision making process to include activities which help you to step out of your comfort zone and overcome that voice that tries to tell you that you can’t.

2. Release Your Inner Critic

Having recognized that the voice was only your inner critic, it is easier to face it head on and then release it from your consciousness. It’s amazing how many people are not even aware of the fact that they have an inner critic and this only makes that source of stress stronger. Ignoring the inner voice has never resolved the negative, pessimistic results it produces.

By recognizing and releasing it, you acknowledge that it was there, but you let it go. Once you do that, you are ready to take action in the opposite direction of what your inner voice was telling you.

3. Reconstruct Your Inner Voice To Relay Self-Confidence

Steps #1 and #2 give you clarity and clean out the dust of the old thought patterns which were not doing you any good. Step #3 reinforces the bonus benefits you get from the first 2 steps by creating new habits of thought patterns. It’s just as easy to say something nice to yourself as it is to let the inner critic have its way, so by reclaiming your power over your thoughts, it gets easier to choose the thoughts you really want to keep about yourself.

No one can define you like you can! Choose to define yourself with positive words and you will see positive results.

You Can Win Over Your Inner Critic and Manage Stress Effectively!

These are well tested methods for creating new inner belief systems and have been used in many different philosophies throughout time. When your decision making process is hampered by your inner critic, you can look at it just as a simple way of your inner voice telling you that you’re ready for a change.

You can change the habits of your inner voice! You can discover how to go through the decision making process without any negativity or undue pessimism. Surely positive self-talk will go a long way in helping you to change these patterns and solidify your choice to conquer your inner critic.

Laughter therapy will also help you to keep a light hearted approach towards this change. Learning how to manage stress means looking at all of the sources of stress in your daily life and your inner critic is one source of stress which can be defeated.

Let your next decision making process be that of choosing to take action to get rid of your inner critic. It will help you to lead a much more balanced and satisfying lifestyle.

Here’s to your inner self-confidence success!

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